Part of the adoption process is finding the right adoptive family for your child. Every step of the way we want our birth parents to feel like they had as much say in the process as they wanted, and that their questions were answered.  It’s your adoption plan; we are just here to to help you make it.

Can I choose the adoptive couple that will adopt my baby?

Absolutely.  We have a two different ways to view adoptive family profiles.  You are able to view adoptive family profiles on our website.

We also have hard copies of their life books.  Your caseworker will present you with a selection to choose from at that stage of your adoption plan.

Birth mothers looking for adoptive parents, might want to think about what sort of things they are looking for in an adoptive family.  But always keep an open mind.  You might be surprised at what you love about an adoptive parent profile.

Is it ok to ask for more adoptive family profiles?

Sure.  If you feel you need to see a few more adoptive family profiles before you make your final decision, Gift of Life will be able to accommodate that.

If you are hoping to see more profiles, it is always good to think about what sort of things you feel like are missing from the profiles you already have.  This will help your caseworker have a better idea of what you are looking for.

What if I don’t want to choose the family?

That is perfectly fine as well.  We want you to have as much or as little say in the process as you would like.  You may choose to not pick the family, but you might want to meet the family that is chosen for you.  You may not want to meet the family, but you may be comfortable with conference calls.

You can choose your level of involvement, and we will tailor a plan that works for you.

Will I meet the family that will adopt my baby?

Yes.  The adoptive couple will come to you, and the meeting can happen wherever you feel comfortable.  We usually meet for lunch or coffee.  This is a great time for you to get to know them and for them to get to know you as well.

Don’t worry if you are nervous about the meeting.  Everyone is nervous at this meeting.  But your caseworker will be there with you to help the conversation along.  Theses meetings are always a special time.

I want to place my child for adoption, but I don’t know if I want to meet the family.  Is that OK?

Of course.  As we said before, you can choose the level of involvement you feel comfortable with.  If you don’t want to meet the family that is fine, but you should always feel comfortable to discuss your concerns or reservations with your caseworker and also our counselor.

Your relationship with the adoptive couple is something that will take a lot of thought and consideration.  As in most steps of the adoption process, it’s always good to ask as many questions as you have, and to talk through your concerns with your caseworker.

Gift of Life is here to help you figure out the best plan that works for you!

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